• Keep the Main Thing the Main Thing

    I finished up the session with Connor, my 9 year old client, and walked out into the waiting room to meet with his mother.  I updated her on how the treatment was going (he was struggling with intense anxiety and panic attacks), and then pulled out my blackberry to make another appointment.  Connor’s mother quickly Continue Reading

  • The Disconnected Husband

    I see it over and over again in the clinical office.  A couple comes in for marital counseling and I watch as the wife desperately tries to get her husband to engage in the conversation.  After watching her scramble for his attention over the course of an hour or two, it becomes clear to me: Continue Reading

  • How to Avoid Sleep Deprivation

    Several weeks ago, I settled into bed after a long day ready for a good night’s sleep.  As I laid there drifting off into what I hoped was at least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, I heard an incredibly loud noise outside my bedroom window.  It sounded like a croaking frog, only it was about Continue Reading

  • Silencing the Critical Monster Within

    I was 25 years old and just beginning to see patients as a psychologist in training. I’ll never forget the moment I watched the first couple I would ever see as a marital therapist drive up to the clinic and walk in for their first appointment. The thing that struck me about this couple was Continue Reading

  • Cultural Narcissism

    I had a very challenging married couple come in to the counseling office last week who were both clearly emotionally disturbed.  They seemed to share some negative personality characteristics that presented as a strange combination of Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorders.  On the Narcissistic side, they both struggled with an inflated opinion about the validity Continue Reading

  • Online Battlefield

    I have a quick quiz I’d like you to take.  Open up your favorite social media platform and go through the first 20 posts from your “friends.”  What percentage of posts are characterized by encouraging messages from others and positive helpful news articles designed to build you up and give you hope?  Now count the Continue Reading

  • How to Have the Best Vacation Ever

    I snapped a picture a couple of days into a vacation I took with my family to the Florida Keys.  As I sat on the back porch in between a day of fishing and the traditional post dinner card game with my kids, I knew I would want to capture this moment.  It was beautiful, Continue Reading

  • Is it Time to Turn Around?

    We just finished an epic night-skiing session and were preparing for our 20-minute drive back to the cabin we rented in the mountains.  I pulled up the address of the cabin on Google Maps and requested directions home.  Simple process, right?  Not really, considering I was presented with two options.  Option one sent us back Continue Reading