• Practical Gratitude

    It’s Thanksgiving, which means we all have a chance to step back from the chaos of the daily grind and express gratitude for the many blessings of our life. The practice of gratitude has been studied by psychologists for years and this body of research shows that being grateful can increase the quality of your Continue Reading

  • Sheepdog Program

    Veterans and first responders are a special breed. They are driven to do extraordinary things in incredibly stressful situations all because they are passionate about doing what many among us are not willing to do: protect and serve at all costs. In the process, many are exposed to trauma most people cannot fathom. Usually, they Continue Reading

  • Anxiety and Worry

    We planned our first trip to Disney World as parents with great intention. Having grown up near Orlando I always felt an affinity for the most Magical Place on Earth and it was important that my little boy had an awesome introduction to the parks that would allow him to truly appreciate the “Disney Experience”. Continue Reading

  • Keep the Main Thing the Main Thing

    I finished up the session with Connor, my 9 year old client, and walked out into the waiting room to meet with his mother.  I updated her on how the treatment was going (he was struggling with intense anxiety and panic attacks), and then pulled out my blackberry to make another appointment.  Connor’s mother quickly Continue Reading

  • The Disconnected Husband

    I see it over and over again in the clinical office.  A couple comes in for marital counseling and I watch as the wife desperately tries to get her husband to engage in the conversation.  After watching her scramble for his attention over the course of an hour or two, it becomes clear to me: Continue Reading

  • How to Avoid Sleep Deprivation

    Several weeks ago, I settled into bed after a long day ready for a good night’s sleep.  As I laid there drifting off into what I hoped was at least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, I heard an incredibly loud noise outside my bedroom window.  It sounded like a croaking frog, only it was about Continue Reading

  • Silencing the Critical Monster Within

    I was 25 years old and just beginning to see patients as a psychologist in training. I’ll never forget the moment I watched the first couple I would ever see as a marital therapist drive up to the clinic and walk in for their first appointment. The thing that struck me about this couple was Continue Reading

  • Cultural Narcissism

    I had a very challenging married couple come in to the counseling office last week who were both clearly emotionally disturbed.  They seemed to share some negative personality characteristics that presented as a strange combination of Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorders.  On the Narcissistic side, they both struggled with an inflated opinion about the validity Continue Reading